For the past few weeks the footy and family have been prominent in the media, one for the right reasons, the other, not and interestingly both with a “Jack” in their name.
When Jack Silvagni came out to play for the senior side at Carlton, he came out with a huge legacy behind him. With SOS involved in the club, when it came to Jack, he did the one thing that a sensible, dedicated parent would do, he stepped back. He allowed Jack to be Jack. To earn a place in the senior side and not to just expect it. He allowed Jack to be just like any other player in the club, there would be no nepotism in this regard whether Jack plays or not. Last weekend when Jack was selected, both SOS and his legendary father, Serge, sat next to Jack for the media as proud parent and grand-parent. That’s it no more.
This week we have seen the very public issue of the Jack family involving Sydney player Kieran Jack and his parents. What should have been a very private family issue has escalated into a media circus that was brought upon by the one person who should have known better, his mother. No matter what the issue is and I don’t really care because it is none of my business, the moment the mother took to a public forum to air her disappointment in not being able to be at the game to celebrate a special occasion, Kieran Jack’s 200th game, she crossed a line. It is a line that should never have been made public and affects not only Jack himself, but the rest of his team, family and friends.
Admonishing a child in public, no matter how old that child is, should never happen. It causes a rift and bitterness that may never be healed. As a parent when your child is in the public eye any issues must and should be handled in private and not in a public forum. Two Jacks were in the media this week where one got nothing but family support and the other did not. Where one had family sitting behind them supporting them no matter what, the other had those who should know better, turn on him in a very public way.
I applaud Jack Silvagni’s family for the way they are handling Jack’s inclusion into the senior club side and I applaud Kieran Jack for the way he is handling this situation, which should never have happened in the first place.